Bollywood icon Amitabh Bachchan celebrates his 63rd birthday Monday, a just occasion to pay a
tribute to the man who continues to dominate Hindi films 35 years after his debut in K.A. Abbas' "Saat
Hindustani".
It's embarrassing to write a personalised piece on a man whom anyone and everyone claims to know after
shaking hands once at a get-together.
This actually happened recently. A gentleman had been harassing AB for a 'together' photograph, a request
he had been politely turning down for a while... until he bumped into this persistent gentleman at a social
gathering. Before he knew it, the guy had positioned himself next to him and got them clicked
together.
"The next thing I knew, he wanted to use the picture on the cover of exercise books!" After all these years
AB is still amazed at human treachery.
Though he's by far the biggest icon of showbiz, his failure to come to terms with the mind-games that
people play is inexplicable. It's very difficult to win AB's confidence. Once you do, it's even more difficult to
lose his trust; he trusts blindly and completely.
That's why my bonding with the Bachchan is so precious. While some of my other 'close' star friends in Mumbai like to keep their friendship
with me away from prying eyes, AB is extremely demonstrative about his feelings for his true
friends.
Two years ago, when "Kaun Banega Crorepati" was blossoming and growing on TV I got the surprise of my
life when one evening AB announced to a contestant from Patna that a very dear friend of his lived in that
city.
It was a big moment and a turning point in my relationship with AB. In a way, it was his way of
acknowledging his trust in me. Until that point, I didn't really feel close to him the way I did with his wife
Jaya or his son Abhishek.
During my very first interview with him, I covered my nervousness with cockiness and said, "Jaya steals the
show each time the two of you come together in any movie."
There was a disturbing silence. When like a fool I prodded him for an answer, he replied, "What can I say to
that?"
Since then, I've come to know it's a part of Mr. Bachchan's basic nature to suffer in silence. "That's the story
of my life," he recently said in an unguarded moment.
I sincerely believe no biography can do justice to the enigma called Amitabh Bachchan. We all know the
suffering and humiliation this mega-star has gone through as a public figure, first as a politician and then as
an entrepreneur. Betrayed by those very people whom he trusted, no one knows how much he has gone
through for simply being 'Amitabh Bachchan'.
And yet he has never lost faith in humankind.
I remember during my first meeting with him, AB hardly spoke. He was attentive and warm, but there was
no real verbal interaction from him. The next morning on the sets of a film he was a different person. "I hope I
was talking sense yesterday. Because I was heavily medicated for a health problem," he told me.
I didn't tell him that there was hardly any talk to talk about.
It takes him a while to find a comfort zone even with the people he trusts. Once there, he's all there.
Whether it's Amar Singh and Anil Ambani or a simple non-celebrity journalist from Patna, AB is equally
proud of his association with all his true friends.
It's a slow and cautious process but if he gives you his friendship, it is unconditional and also irrevocable,
unless you happen to do something to hurt him radically. People very close to him have done him immense
damage. These betrayals haven't made him bitter or cautious in his dealings with human beings. They've
just left him a bit baffled and bruised.
Not too many people know about his fun side. Our mega star is a great one for SMSs. The messages can
be pithy or funny or both. But they make their point tellingly. I'm not at liberty to share some of his naughtier
messages here, but I will say one thing. At 62, AB remains the youngest person in the Bachchan
household. When he's at home with family or with close friends he's completely relaxed. And often wickedly
humorous.
All the three Bachchans -- AB, Jaya and Abhishek are great hosts. One of the things that I look forward to
in Mumbai is my evening at Jalsa, the Bachchan residence. Each time I'm invited for a meal, Jaya and
Abhishek make sure I've a perfect evening. And if for some reason the head of the family is unable to be
home, he makes sure to call to say he hopes I enjoy myself in his absence.
You've heard reams about AB's professionalism. But you still haven't heard enough. I've known this
astounding workaholic to sweat it out under the worst possible circumstances without a word of complaint.
In Los Angeles two years ago for Sanjay Gupta's "Kaante", AB had a severe back problem and an
excruciating toothache.
He not only bore all the pain but also shot action sequences and made sure shooting didn't suffer on his
account.
Last year while shooting for Gaurang Doshi's "Deewaar", AB was ensconced for hours together in a set
depicting a cave that was barely five ft in height. At the end of the day, he couldn't stand straight. But there
wasn't a word of complaint.
Last week he had an acute eye infection. He nonetheless flew to Amsterdam for a festival of his films.
I know of no other showbiz icon who would do so much for his friends. The few times that I've requested him
to meet producers, he has not only heard them out but also accommodated their films in his clogged
diary.
Recently, a non-Hindi actor needed him to put in a flash guest appearance. Since I knew exactly how
crowded his schedule was I was hesitant to ask. But this was a really close friend who genuinely needed
AB's presence in his film and I sent him an SMS. The response was immediate. And positive. Of course he
would do it!
Recently, during a private conversation when we spoke about the state of the nation -- when AB expresses
concern about the growing vulgarity and mediocrity in every walk of life he speaks in Hindi, and that's when
you know he's really disturbed -- he suddenly said: "I've very few friends. I depend on a few people... like
you."
To you Amitji, that may have been a casual observation. To me it's a great responsibility. I hope I am up to
it, now and for as long as you remain India's biggest, humblest and most cultured star ever.