An otherwise hot summer day of June 19 can hold such importance - it marks the celebration of fatherhood. This Father's Day, some of Bollywood's glitterati share their
experiences.
Amitabh Bachchan, actor: "My relationship with my father was always formal. Though I loved him in my own way, in those days children were not allowed to be effusive, and
the same went for parents. I somehow missed that sense of camaraderie...
"I had decided long ago that I'd share a far less formal rapport with my own son when I
would have one. I yearned to make my son my best friend. And Abhishek is my best friend. We share the same tastes. We exchange jokes, even dirty ones, just like
friends. Yes, Abhishek wears my clothes and shoes, though I don't wear his. But of course, I miss my father."
Sanjay Leela Bhansali, director: "I've long made peace with him." (Bhansali shared an uneasy relationship with his father when he was alive.) "All my films are dedicated to
him, and if you see 'Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam', Salman Khan talks to his father just as I do. I feel that I connect with him better now than I ever did while he was there.
"My father was a very gifted man with great knowledge of cinema and classical music. But he couldn't get his dues as a filmmaker, and he couldn't come to terms
with his failure. We had to bear the brunt of his frustrations. Looking back, I can see a lot of his influence on me. My love for classical music, my love for cinema...There's so
much I could've shared with him if he was here today."
Asha Parekh, actor, director: "To me, my father was both the parents after my mother's death. And he always said I was his 'only son' more than a daughter. His recent
death has orphaned me. I don't think one grows up fully while parents are there. Then with both parents gone you've nowhere to go. I miss my father terribly. But I know he's
with me even if I can't see him."
Karan Johar, director: "It's been a year since he passed away. Not a single day goes by without my thinking about dad. When I was a child I thought of my father as my
grandfather as he was so much older, and had grey hair! We became very close during his last years. And just as we were turning into thick friends, he was snatched
away."
Vipul Shah, producer-director: "Like all growing sons I had my share of differences with my father. A lot of what you see in 'Waqt' is to do with my father. Amitji's (Amitabh
Bachchan) and Akshay's (Akshay Kumar) relationship replicates my own friction and bonding with my father."
Sammir Dattani: "Actually my father wears my shoes more often than I wear his! I've a collection of sports footwear which he borrows for his morning walk. I borrow his formal
shoes for parties. We aren't friends yet, but we're catching up.
"Till a few years back he was a complete workaholic - too much into his work and knowing nothing
about chilling out. Then I introduced him to holidays and parties. Now he enjoys letting his hair down once in a while. My dad has nothing to do with movies - he's in the
textile business. But I consult him about all my movie offers. He looks at all my contracts before I sign them."
Monday, June 20, 2005 13:59 IST