But Irrfan is unfazed. "I can't say Tabu and I meet after hours. But I must say Tabu is a very special person and actress. It takes a lot for her to open up. She never lies in her performances.
I remember during Maqbool we'd instinctively understand each other. She knew exactly when to put her hand out, or when to touch my elbow ...little things that make the chemistry between co-stars.
After Maqbool I didn't know what chemistry was. During the making of The Namesake I was more concerned about getting my Bangla accent right than anything else. I spent hours getting it right."
Irrfan's wife is Bengali. "But that didn't help me much. We don't speak Bengali at home. Ashok Gangooly was a mystery to me. I had to get both his external and internal life right."
About the love scene. "Yes, at first I was startled. It was a little more explicit and longer than love scenes generally are. I was worried about her reaction. If Tabu had been even slightly awkward I'd have been worried.
But she made me comfortable by being completely into the scene. After that there was no awkwardness. We were very professional about it."
Irrfan had great expectations from Mira's film. " I never imagined such a response. People in the US were watching it repeatedly.
The Namesake suddenly made me feel worthwhile as an actor. I was fascinated by the silences of my character Ashok Gangooly. Issko pakdoon kahan se?
It was not expressed even in Jhumpa Lahiri's novel. Mira has added a lot to the original material. That's the fun of a movie adaptation. The movie is over. But I'm still discovering facets to my character. I just fall in love with my character's silences."
So is Irrfan ready to take on international stardom? "I took up the Angelina Jolie project A Mighty Heart because I was offered one of the leads. But it's Angelina's story. I could've never imagined anyone could turn her tragedy into such a triumph. I play a very strong character."
In Mira Nair's short film The Migration Irrfan actually sought out the role of the gay character. "She offered me the part of the sweet simple straight farmer that Shiney Ahuja finally did. I saw no challenge in that.
Give me roles that aren't fake. Ashok Gangooly in The Namesake gave me a chance to embrace a beautiful new vision. I could never be this person. Ashok gave me a chance to live a unique life."