Does sex have a hold on you? Here are some questions intended to help you be more aware of some behaviors that perhaps indicate that sex has a hold on you. If you answer yes to three or more questions it probably is wise to take a closer look at the place of sex in your life.
1) Do I have sex at inappropriate times, inappropriate places and/or with the wrong people? 2) Do I make promises to myself or rules for myself concerning my sexual behavior that I find I cannot follow?
3) Have I lost count of the number of sexual partners I've had in the past 3 years? 4) Do I have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?
5) Do I feel uncomfortable about my masturbation, the fantasies I engage in, the props I use, and/or the places in which I do it? 6) Do I feel jaded, exhausted, and cynical? Am I on the path to that?
7) Do I feel that my life is unmanageable because of my sexual behavior? 8) Do I have sex as a way to deal with or escape from life's problems? Do I feel entitled to sex? Do I feel as though I have earned sex?
9) Do I have a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity on my part? 10) Do I feel that my sexual life affects my spiritual life in a negative way?